This is a broad topic and one which I feel is particularly relevant to Neurodivergent individuals.
Abusive individuals prey on the difficulties they already face. Without self-awareness a neurodivergent individual and loses self-esteem and confidence is crushed.
So what is emotional abuse? Some examples
Gaslighting. This can take many forms but essentially if you know something, happened it did. if you felt a certain way, you have a right to feel this. Warning signs include calling you crazy, saying you need help, telling you something didn’t happen. Telling you that you are over sensitive. If you are spending time trying to work out what happened and trying to prove this. It might be gaslighting.
Stone walling or silent treatment . This can range from simply refusing to be accountable for something, refusing to answer, not talking to your a while or days. literally ignoring you. chipping at your sense of self and worth.
Lying . Literally lying about everything . Things you know happened, how they felt. whether things happened. And being proud of those lies. Even worse bragging about it.
Admires success , worships grandiosity . floats towards more powerful individuals and showers them with praise and attention. Sees success and money as a positive quality. Thinks and really believes they are better than everyone else
The abuser then turns on the victim . I love this concept , its called … DARVO. This is the key to your healing. The now victim becomes so low that they are desperate and the abuser has power at this point.
DARVO IS BORN. once you know what DARVO is a lightbulb will drop and you will be free.
See Octobers blog for my reflections on DARVO
